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Today is Equal Pay Day…
did you know? I didn’t. Thanks to the girls over at feministing.com I now know, and so do you. You can thank me later for bringing this to your attention…I can just tell you were dying to know this tidbit of information.
New research by the American Association of University Women shows that just one year out of college, women working full time already earn less than their male colleagues, even when they work in the same field. Ten years after graduation, the pay gap widens.
Okay, so this isn’t like breaking news or anything, but still, it’s interesting. Okay, well, it’s more like a yeah, duh, we already know, it’s kinda obvious. Still, doesn’t mean it sucks any less.
a woman boss = an awful experience
I know, it’s a pretty harsh statement to make but it got your attention, didn’t it? And, unfortunately, in my case, it’s completely true. So the title should probably read ME + a woman boss = an awful experience. It should, but, I’m not going to change it because I doubt I’m the only woman who thinks this way.
Penelope Trunk over at Brazen Careerist posted about the idea of paying ones dues in the workplace and it got me thinking about my work experiences, and in particular, the experience of working for a female boss. It’s something I’ve wanted to write about for sometime now, I’ve even started one or two postings about it but never quite felt right about publishing them. The emotional aspect of it keeps getting in the way. Even after 5 years have passed, I guess I’m still bitter and angry about this. (And yes, I know, I am a holder-on-of-things. I’ve already established this and freely admitted to it so there is no need to remind me.)
Well, emotion and all…. Read the rest of this entry »
more thoughts on feminism and why maybe I’m not a feminist anymore. shhhh, don’t tell barnard. they may take my diploma away.
Warning: The inner workings of my sometimes marvelous, though, more often, fucked up mind are no where near logical and/or organized. In other words, what follows may just seem like huge mess of random thoughts. I’d tackle this in a different way if I knew how, but I don’t. So that while I can’t promise that this will make any sense, I can almost guarantee it to be thought provoking and maybe, for some, polarizing.
The other day I had planned on writing something meaningful about it having been International Women’s Day (IWD), but instead, I only came up with this. I guess I could have blogged against sexism had I paid attention to the fact that it was blog against sexism day. I’m still quite disappointed about it. No, not that I didn’t blog against sexism that is, but that I didn’t write anything meaningful on March 8th. Made worse, of course, by the fact that I had come up with some great stuff earlier in the day but I just couldn’t get it out of my head and on to paper, it got stuck along side 50 other ideas that I’m working on. (Did I ever tell you that I think way too much?)
And that’s the dilemma I’m having these days. Taking on this whole project of self exploration and self discovery and writing about it has been on the one hand really cathartic and on the other hand quite stressful. What I’ve come to realize recently is that I have SO many issues just piled up inside me that I either A) haven’t really dealt with, or B) have dealt with but are holding on to for some unknown reason. (For that second point, I should really reread this.)
It’s amazing how the brain works. Smells, images, sounds, particular words, they all conjure up memories. Some good, some neutral, others painful. You just never know what will float to the surface.
So here’s what’s risen to the top most recently: feminism. You see, the other day, having been IWD, I got to thinking a lot about feminism and my own feelings and issues on the topic.
There was once a time when I would have considered myself a feminist, without a doubt. Today, I’m not so sure if that label applies to me. Actually, I’m not so sure what that word even means anymore, but that’s another topic all together.
When I was in high school people thought it amusing to call me a feminazi. I was outspoken about my views on women’s rights, I did not hide it. I gladly took on projects and assignments that flexed my feminist muscle. As a senior I even wrote a paper on the negative effect of Barbie on a young girl’s self image. I didn’t mind being labeled a feminist, I actually embraced it. (I didn’t like the term feminazi however, but what could I do? We’re talking about teenagers here.)
I went to college. I took classes in women’s studies, I read Charlotte Perkins Gilman, bell hooks, Andrea Dworkin. I studied the lives of Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Margaret Sanger. I knew what the women at Senaca Falls had started and I knew what Betty Friedan fought for. I knew all of these things and more. I got it, I saw where I fit in. I thought I would go out and conquer the world, break the glass ceiling, show everyone how my gender would not set me apart from others. That I was just as capable as any guy. That I would be successful, a trailblazer, a pioneer. A fighter for a cause.
Slight problem. At the end of the day, when I ventured out into the real world, there was no cause. Yes, there was and still is the constant debate over abortion, but I don’t see this as much a feminist issue as a political one. (Go ahead, argue with me on that one if you want, but it’s just how I see it these days.) And no, women have not achieved equality. Still, I couldn’t find a cause worth fighting for, at least not one that I could relate to and be passionate about.
A generation of women had fought before me to create a landscape in which I could do anything I wanted to. Now, it was up to me. I didn’t experience gender bias or blatant sexism. No one told me I couldn’t do something because I was female. In my world — and yes, I’ll be the first to admit, it is a somewhat privileged white middle class world — all seemed pretty darn good. I still considered myself a feminist. I think.
The second wave feminist movement succeeded in giving my generation something very important – choice. And I’m not talking about choice with regards to abortion. Choice with regards to almost everything. My mother’s generation fought and paved the way for the next generation of women to follow. We don’t have to fight the same battles, we don’t have to prove our worth in classrooms or in boardrooms the same way they did. In fact, we don’t have to fight at all if we don’t want to. We are a generation of women who have the luxury of being able to choose to have a career, to be a wife, a mother or any combination of these roles. And I am grateful for these women for giving me the ability to choose.
So what’s the problem?
Here’s the thing, I grew up reading and learning about the trials and tribulations of the second wave feminists. The rhetoric of the fight and the struggle. I incorporated that into my psyche. It became part of me. So much so that upon making my own choice to get married at a young age, have children right away and put my own career on hold to follow that of my husband’s kicked off an internal struggle that to this day rages on inside me. How could I be a feminist after choosing to be a wife and mother above all else?
To this, I do not have an answer. Only more questions.
Why, tell me, do I feel like I’ve let my mother’s generation down? That I’ve let my mother down? That I’ve let myself down? That I’m setting a poor example for my daughter?
In the end, though, I must remember, feminist or not, today, I am a mother and a wife. And right now that’s what matters most. Is that so wrong?